I created this book as a unique guest register for a renewal of vows ceremony. I made the last four pages at the back with lines and sections for all the guests to leave their special messages. It caused lots of laughter and comments as people flicked through - reading the stories and looking at the pictures covering the couple's life together. And then I made another copy of the book for the mum of the 'bride' with special pictures and a poem just for her.
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A life story book can include only what you want it to...perhaps the happy memories are the only ones you want to record? It's not necessary to dig up hurtful memories that could bring pain to members of your family who are likely to read your book. A sensitive interviewer will discuss with you anything they feel may be of concern and then you decide if you wish to include it in your memoirs. Once you've started the quest to find information on your family, any blank dates can be filled in from your relevant state’s Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages. Most have online search functions. Another useful place is the The Genealogical Society in your state or local area. Don't forget local, state and national libraries, national and states hold the electoral rolls and can provide lots of information. If you are trying to get some information or stories from a close relative, to help construct a family tree or life story, they may be reluctant to open up to you. How do you handle this? With a parent or close family member, they may wonder why you you want to learn more about them. It's important to reassure them that there are some stories you’d like to hear again. You can also explain that while you know a lot about them already, there are some things you don't know about. Maybe, things you were told years ago and you don't remember well. You can also give a couple of examples of things you have always been curious about – but know nothing about. A good tip when researching your family tree on the internet is to keep a list of which sites you've been to. It's all too easy to forget where you've been and keep on going back to the same sites - trust me, I know! Also it's worth noting where you got certain information from, just in case you want to go back and add some more. Obituaries are a good place to look and you can research them on the net. As family trees work their way back in time from the present, looking for information on recently deceased relatives can sometimes be a treasure chest of information on family units, people and spouses plus date of birth, death and place of burial. This could even help you to find living relatives who could offer more information on your family tree. 'Ethical Wills' are a Jewish tradition and the Hebrew Bible first described them 3,000 years ago (Genesis Ch.49). Ethical Wills, which are not legal documents, can be either the life story of the person who is nearing death, the lessons they've learnt and wish to pass on or even their dreams and wishes for their family members. They can also be written at times of transition in someone's life. Have you written an Ethical Will? If not, the benefits are huge. It could be the most meaningful gift you could leave to your family. |
AuthorRebecca Skinner has been a journalist and editor for more than 30 years working in newspapers, magazines, TV and radio. Her caring nature enables her to put people quickly at ease to help prompt their memories. As a writer she can weave anyone's story into a professionally written and produced book that makes compelling reading. Archives
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